Bro. Tim shares a devotional inspired by the following thoughts.

We often talk about, and we’ve all heard many cliches about the power of words (and I don’t want to minimise their importance). However there’s another side to that story – in some of the literature that I’ve read, I actually learnt that words in some situations only account for 7% of communication. The 38% of the message is delivered via voice and inflection, and 55% is delivered by body language, facial expression and the context of the situation.

When someones reading a book we don’t ask, “Do you like the words you see?” “Are you enjoy the letters on the page?”

 

At the shops, as I was getting out of my car I noticed in the distance  another vehicle  about to leave the carpark. This car had loud heavy metal music pumping out of the speakers ? carry 3-4 guys ? dreadlocks –  their clothing (or lack thereof) definitely gave the impression of a rough crowd. The car then does a U turn, and drives straight towards me. Driver rolls down his window, “Hey man,  do they sell ice here?” I’m thinking ? WOW this is the first time I’m being asked for drugs. I stand there for a couple seconds with question marks all over my face, unsure how to explain to him that I won’t be able to help him with his addictions. The man shakes his head “No, No, ice ? Like ice in an esky – that stuff?”  “Yes, Of course – Woolies ? they might have some, why don’t you go and check?”

 

James 3:4-9 Talks how much power the tongue can have, and the importance of taming it.

 

Proverbs gives us some great pointers on when to speak, and when not to speak. I often find that I’d much rather regret not saying something, than having the regret that comes with damage done by saying too much or talking when I’m angry. I’m inspired by how little Jesus spoke, while the worst injustices were being done.

 

Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

 

Pro 10:18-21  He that hideth hatred with lying lips, and he that uttereth a slander, is a fool.

Pro 10:19  In the multitude of words there wanteth not sin: but he that refraineth his lips is wise.

Pro 10:20  The tongue of the just is as choice silver: the heart of the wicked is little worth.

Pro 10:21  The lips of the righteous feed many: but fools die for want of wisdom

 

In closing, I think that from the verses we just read the biggest lesson that I’m taking home with me is the importance of not “Covering hatred with lying lips”. I think the word “hatred” can refer to someone that may have wronged us in some way. In this context, the word “Lips” isn’t necessarily referring to the flappy bits on the southern hemisphere of our face. I think it’s referring to our attitude, and pretending that our relationship with a certain person is fine, instead of going directly to them, and discussing the issue.

 

The Bible in Deuteronomy, says, in detail, that if someone wrongs you, confront them directly

I remember a few weeks ago that I was specifically applying this principle to something that happened at work. I was sure that one of my coworkers in the department right next to us had sold a car to one of “My Customers” I had also heard on the grapevine some rumours that some of the other guys had been “Snipped (the technical term in the industry)” by this coworker.

 

Now, What is the easiest thing in the entire world to do, when you’re in this situation? The easiest thing in the entire world is go to all the other guys and expose what happened in graphic detail, and to snowball those rumors and make them even bigger.

Now, thankfully I was able to hold my horses, and I approached this man later on when I had a chance and confronted him. As it turns out more often than not (and according to the complex web of the unwritten rules in car sales etiquette that I won’t explain here), He was right in what he did, and I  actually completely misunderstood the whole situation.

 

I have one challenge for you for next week. If someone wrongs you, make a deliberate effort to confront that person directly – and you might just end up being very grateful you did!

We often talk about, and we’ve all heard many cliches about the power of words (and I don’t want to minimise their importance). However there’s another side to that story – in some of the literature that I’ve read, I actually learnt that words in some situations only account for 7% of communication. The 38% of the message is delivered via voice and inflection, and 55% is delivered by body language, facial expression and the context of the situation.

When someones reading a book we don’t ask, “Do you like the words you see?” “Are you enjoy the letters on the page?”

 

At the shops, as I was getting out of my car I noticed in the distance  another vehicle  about to leave the carpark. This car had loud heavy metal music pumping out of the speakers ? carry 3-4 guys ? dreadlocks –  their clothing (or lack thereof) definitely gave the impression of a rough crowd. The car then does a U turn, and drives straight towards me. Driver rolls down his window, “Hey man,  do they sell ice here?” I’m thinking ? WOW this is the first time I’m being asked for drugs. I stand there for a couple seconds with question marks all over my face, unsure how to explain to him that I won’t be able to help him with his addictions. The man shakes his head “No, No, ice ? Like ice in an esky – that stuff?”  “Yes, Of course – Woolies ? they might have some, why don’t you go and check?”

 

James 3:4-9 Talks how much power the tongue can have, and the importance of taming it.

 

Proverbs gives us some great pointers on when to speak, and when not to speak. I often find that I’d much rather regret not saying something, than having the regret that comes with damage done by saying too much or talking when I’m angry. I’m inspired by how little Jesus spoke, while the worst injustices were being done.

 

Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

 

Pro 10:18-21  He that hideth hatred with lying lips, and he that uttereth a slander, is a fool.

Pro 10:19  In the multitude of words there wanteth not sin: but he that refraineth his lips is wise.

Pro 10:20  The tongue of the just is as choice silver: the heart of the wicked is little worth.

Pro 10:21  The lips of the righteous feed many: but fools die for want of wisdom

 

In closing, I think that from the verses we just read the biggest lesson that I’m taking home with me is the importance of not “Covering hatred with lying lips”. I think the word “hatred” can refer to someone that may have wronged us in some way. In this context, the word “Lips” isn’t necessarily referring to the flappy bits on the southern hemisphere of our face. I think it’s referring to our attitude, and pretending that our relationship with a certain person is fine, instead of going directly to them, and discussing the issue.

 

The Bible in Deuteronomy, says, in detail, that if someone wrongs you, confront them directly

I remember a few weeks ago that I was specifically applying this principle to something that happened at work. I was sure that one of my coworkers in the department right next to us had sold a car to one of “My Customers” I had also heard on the grapevine some rumours that some of the other guys had been “Snipped (the technical term in the industry)” by this coworker.

 

Now, What is the easiest thing in the entire world to do, when you’re in this situation? The easiest thing in the entire world is go to all the other guys and expose what happened in graphic detail, and to snowball those rumors and make them even bigger.

Now, thankfully I was able to hold my horses, and I approached this man later on when I had a chance and confronted him. As it turns out more often than not (and according to the complex web of the unwritten rules in car sales etiquette that I won’t explain here), He was right in what he did, and I  actually completely misunderstood the whole situation.

 

I have one challenge for you for next week. If someone wrongs you, make a deliberate effort to confront that person directly – and you might just end up being very grateful you did!

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